How often do you find yourself saying how busy you are in one way or another? I caught myself trying to impress my daughter with my busy-ness one day and I had to stop and laugh as she gave me one of those eyeball rolls. I think she was right.
Busy-ness is all about direction. Without a strong underpinning of meaning, being busy isn’t that impressive. There I was telling my daughter that our relationship wasn’t a priority on my schedule and it didn’t reflect how I truly feel. Not even a little bit. There comes a point where being busy is a goal unto itself and you’re not even enjoying that cup of coffee.
There is a movement to explore this issue. A group of students write an interesting blog on taking the opportunity while in University to learn how to not drive yourself crazy with busy-ness.
Balanced Leadership recognizes that fear and love needs to be in balance. Working hard, trying to stay ahead of the pack, striving to be vital and valuable as measured by how busy you are are all manifestations of the fear based world. Sometimes it is a good thing. It shows an ability to take on challenges and to dig down and accomplish your goals when required. The problem arises when you can’t shut it off. Pushing back against what you fear requires a judicious use of power: not too much, not too little, just right. We call it the Goldilocks principle.
Before you get busy, there needs to be play time. This is one of the best ways to get in touch with what is meaningful to you. Or free time, with moments of stillness. Understanding what is meaningful to you requires a different environment than the fast paced, get it done atmosphere of many workplaces. Busy is even the root of the word business.
Before you get busy, take a moment to find what is really important to you. And then, no matter how far you are down the wrong path – turn back!!
Balanced Leadership gives you the tools to move easily from the fear-based world to the love based-world and vice versa. It gives you the insight to know what is driving you in any given moment and from there you can make some choices. Our next 1-day workshop will be at Hollyhock – Vancouver, March 14.